Fall Into The Gap

[At some point you just have to acknowledge that a gap exists that, try as you might, you just can't bridge. Chris and I have been painfully aware of at least one or two gaps between us ever since we started dating, and this week, they yawned more widely than ever. We finally acknowledged last night that we couldn't bridge them.]

[Unless the breakup is particularly nasty, it's typical for the parties to say they'll remain friends. Often those are just words, but I think he and I will do it. We still have more commonalities than differences (but those differences are key), and it's just poor utilization of human resources to let such connections lapse unnecessarily. I love the guy, and the feeling appears to be mutual. While that's not enough to build a romantic partnership in this case, it's enough to sustain a friendship that fills needs in me that no other friendship does.]

[In case you care, I'm not on the market yet. This whole episode has taught me that I still have a lot of work to do before I'll be ready to think about boyfriends. I've learned a lot lately about the need to analyze how I'm living my life, how I want my future to go, and what I'm looking for in a romantic partner and why. I'm grateful to Chris for helping to bring these things into sharper focus. And, naturally, for four challenging, often delightful months.]

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